Heather Rae El Moussa is discussing the highs and lows she experienced while learning to co-parent with husband Tarek El Moussa’s ex-wife, Christina Hall.
In a sneak peek of her interview with”The New Rules” on “Today,” Heather Rae revealed it was a struggle entering a relationship with someone who had just gotten out of a significant long-term relationship, especially since he had children.
“I felt like I was always second, and no one ever made me feel that way, but I think when your significant other had such a long relationship with the previous spouse and a lot of love, and it was very public divorce,” Heather Rae explained. “You’re coming into it, and you fall in love with each other, but you always kind of think of the ex.”
When Heather Rae and Tarek got together in 2019, Tarek already had two children with his ex-wife and “Flip or Flop” co-star. Tarek and Hall share a daughter, Taylor, 9, and a son, Brayden, 4.
Upon entering the relationship with Tarek, Heather Rae explained that she had to “navigate (her) own feelings along with falling in love with a man” while at the same time figuring out how to raise kids and continue filming her own show, “Selling Sunset,” admitting “it wasn’t always perfect.”
“We definitely had some ups and downs, and they had ups and downs, and I think she realized how much I love the kids, and they are No. 1 to me over anything,” Heather Rae explained. “So any drama aside, the kids are the most important thing to all of us.”
Heather Rae admitted taking on the “mom role” with Tarek’s kids was a hard adjustment for her, because prior to starting a relationship with him, she was a single girl living in Los Angeles who “had time to be with (her) girlfriends” and was living with her best friend while filming “Selling Sunset.” It was important to her not to lose that part of herself when taking on the additional responsibilities of a stepmom.
“All of a sudden, I jump into a mom role, a wife role, I take on his big family. I’ve always told my husband, my career is also very important to me, and I think that’s helped me maintain not losing myself. I take care of myself, I get my massages, I get my nails done, but I also am a really good mom.”
While she works hard to maintain her sense of self, Heather Rae said she still experiences “mom guilt” every so often, explaining that while she is a “hands-on” mom, she isn’t able to drop them off or pick them up from school because she has to film or is working on other things. She has, however, learned to cut herself some slack.
“Sometimes I feel guilty about that,” she said. “Then I’m like, ‘Why?’ Because they’re happy, they’re healthy, they love me. I love them and I give them the time I have. And I prioritize them. So why am I…